Pyramid of Love
OK so I wanted to write about the progression of a relationship as I saw to seeing it this morning as I was walking to catch the bus...(oh BTW I just got an email from this guy John...and he's living in Hawaii teaching school...man my next stop is teaching English in Fiji...they have jobs their...i'm looking into it when I get off of here)...anyway back to topic...when you first start you are just dancing around on egg shells trying to be witty or funny and absoutely in my case non-scary...after a week or so of this playing...or until you have sex...then the next level starts...the level of beginning substance...like the sharing of art, movies, or music...and if you can climb that mountain without being abrassive then you can go to the next level which are family and history stories...these can bring a little light of real personal data into focus...like if your girl says "My Mom used to beat me"...these are warning signs..but if you have gotten past this and the sex tally is at least in the double digits by week 3 then you are on a steady course...ok after that there are several askewed levels of intimacy to attain...like going shopping...cooking food...something routine and daily that you can involve the other person in...something that can be picked apart and made fun of...because isn't that the true sign of intimacy...making fun of someone without worrying about them becomming offended....well that's the stage I'm at right now...she's cool...I mean I'm leaving in 2 months and I'll never see her again but it's nice to know that I got to that level again...I was only really at it once before...but it was nice feeling comfortable even if for only a little while...so yeah back to the pyramid...oh and it is a pyramid ladies and gentlemen...because the downslides are coming...after the pinnacle of non-malicous fun making are acquired then you start to regress...all-be-it slowly...it never gets that good again...it never gets back to that level...because then..well like it or not...you are a man...you start looking around for something better...you figure you are on a roll..you figure you got it all figured out and you can act this way with all women...hahahaha!...we fools we!....but then you start noticing things you don't like...petty little idiosyncracies (sp?) or little fights begin over being late...or jealousy starts to arise over alotment of time...and this is the downslide...and we all want to ignore it thinking it will get back to the point when we were cooking eggs over a gas burner in our underwear at 4:00 on a sunday...but it never goes back there...it just goes down and maybe slightly back up form time to time...never really pinnacling again...just a long plateau of what you can withstand... so lets recap...
The Relationship
- Egg shells
- Sex
- Beginning substance (movies, art, music)
- Personal stories
- Double digit sex tally
- Dialy routine involvement
- Naked egg cooking
Yep that's pretty much it...there is no real time alotment here...I mean everyone goes at their own pace based on religous guilt, availability of hygenic partners, some sort of odd disease, or they may actually be in love and none of that crap actually matters...and what the hell do I know...I've only been in love once...this is what hit me when I was walking today...that's all
